"What you think of me is none of my business.”

I read a lot of business books. And this quote from Robert Kiyosaki’s Cashflow Quadrant definitely doesn't sound like it came from a business book.

Ironically, this advice can be used in every asset of life.

Back in September, I began uploading videos to TikTok for the first time in my life. I genuinely hate the app and what it did to our attention span. But it’s a tool, just like every social media outlet. And if you're not using said tool to your advantage, then you are missing out.

There are two main reasons you’re afraid of posting online:

1. It won’t get any views

2. It will get hate comments

But you fail to see that these two cancel each other out.

If you don’t get any views, you most likely aren’t getting any comments to begin with. And if your video does get hate comments, it probably means it’s also performing quite well.

As such it really doesn’t matter, especially not what others think of you. If you use social media to boost your self-esteem, then you might care too much. But if you use social media as a tool to boost your skills, practice English and grow your business, then who cares?

When I started my old gaming YouTube channel in 2014, my content was not performing. I didn’t get comments for a long time, and many would look at the videos and call them cringe. But once I started making money, and had a certain level of recognition and most importantly viewers, those judgmental views suddenly disappeared.

We care too little about ourselves, and too much about what others think of us.

"What you think of me is none of my business.”

I have my own dreams, my own direction, and my own desires. I don’t let anyone else tell me what I can or can not do. And if you want to take your language to the next level, you need to follow your own goals and ambitions.

Creating content is just about the best way to go about attaining that. Plus you’ll build something lovely in the process.

Mark Manson has a wonderful book on this topic:

Imagine what it would feel like to be back in primary school:

You are turned back into a 12 year old kid, but you get to preserve all of your present memories. How would you behave?

Would you care what your classmates think of you?

Would you repeat your old ways or pick better options?

Would you care what the teacher thinks of you?

Would you still take all of the advice at face value?

Would you still give a f*ck?

If you answered no, then why do you care what people think of you now, in your present body and age?

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You would care way less what people think of you if you realised how seldom they do.

I got my English because I watched people expose themselves to the internet and create. I learned from people who did things that would make them look weird, cringe, special, different, good, bad, challenged, intriguing etc... I played video games made by geeks, watched youtube videos made by nerds and ended up making my very own content for just about any remaining category of "opinion" having people.

I could not care less about what you think of me. That's your thing, your burden. Not mine.

People feel that exposure and attention are unnatural. But the same way you're afraid of exposing yourself by showing off your true hobies and passions to the world, you're afraid to expose yourself to the truest nature of the language. You refuse to fully commit.

That is why you don't progress as fast as you'd like.

You have to stop giving a f*ck and actually take the leap forward.

Remember, fear is a mile wide, and an inch deep.

Best regards,

Tim